Definition Self-control or temperance is a discipline of self, self restraint, the will-power, strength of mind and your will to live up to your set principles. It is the self-will to restrict indulgence in certain things that may seem irresistible to you. It is a gift of God by His grace but it is you who has the capacity to use it or not as you will. Ga 5:22 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.”

The old man will show up When you repent and come to God, the old man, which was living before tries to come back and relive your life again. The old nature will try to come back again. It is your obligation to resist the same old person or he will come again and ruin your new life in Christ.2 Cor 5:17 “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold all things are become new.”

Self Control!

If you were a prostitute or thief or adulterer or drunkard or someone with a riotous temper or whatever that you were, the devil will have a record of what he knows you really love and lust after and will not waste time with too many things that he knows you do not like, but will put extra effort on your areas of weakness. If you abhor cigarette smoking then the devil will not waste time with cigarettes but he will get information from his intelligence officers. If they tell him that you had problems with the opposite sex he will tell his demons to focus on that area and before you know it you feel the pinch that the old man is coming back to life. Jas 1:13 ¶ Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: 14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. It is apparent from the Scripture that everyone is tempted by their own lust, something that you already have a taste for. The devil will not spend time on something that you do not have a taste and lust for. The old man is watching you and is sure to show up if he has not already started to show up. Pr 26:11 ¶ As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly. {returneth to his folly:
God spoke to me This is where the issue of self-control comes in. God spoke to me on 26/09/09 at 06:13 that I should teach the church on self-control or else people would backslide when the old man catches up with them. I thank God for having revealed this to me because it has already begun to help me in my spiritual walk as the old man tries to come back and kill my new life. In order for us to be successful in life, our spiritual walk and in the vision we need to be temperate, we need self-control.
You , only, can control you. To control any other person or any other thing is easy and is pleasant, no wonder why people fight to have control over things. However I have realized that the most difficult person for me to control is me. Though I have great authority in life, I become my greatest challenge. I realized that God has given me great authority that even the devil and great satanic forces of hell fear and tremble before the power God has given me, Jesus long overcame Satan for me but still I have become my greatest problem, my greatest enemy. It’s the issue of my appetites, my lusts, my thought pattern, the hidden things that I desire,

• It’s the way I respond when I see easy money,

• It’s how I respond when I get a substantial amount of money,

• It’s the way I eat when it’s time to break the fast and I see a heap of sadza/Pap and a litre of fizzy drinks,

• It’s the thing that hits my mind when I associate with members of the opposite sex, how my heart gets excited in coarse joking, or

• It’s dirt joking and dirty cell-phone/internet messages and how though I do not seem to like it I rejoice at the chance to just have a glance of pornographic material,

• It’s my secret and hidden agenda,

• It’s the way I feel when people talk good and praise the success of people I do not particularly like and my perceived competitors,

• It’s the way I feel when somebody I never expected becomes more successful than me,

• It’s the way I feel like responding to someone who speaks evil against me or when I have an argument with my spouse. Pr 12:16 ¶ A fool's wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame. {presently: Heb. in that day} Pr 17:28 Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.

Ladies and gentleman its not you who has a problem but the problem is with the me , the ego, the real essence that makes me, the hard-drive in me. The self in me has desires that oppose the nature and will of God Ro 7:18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. 20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. 21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man: 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? 25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin. I once asked a certain Roman Catholic priest if he did not have had problems with the opposite sex coming to tempt him since he had done the oath of celibacy. He spoke to me very frankly and said, “Apostle I do not have any problem with any lady that tries to seduce me, its easy to quickly figure that out. The problem is when I feel for a lady and not when she feels for me.” Hey, I realized that the problem is not with them but with me. It is true it’s easier to control temptations from others but who will control me when I become the temptation. I now know that even God will not (not “cannot”) control me. If I decide to go to a bar right now, even with the level of anointing and vision I have, God will not force me to the pulpit, I will go to the bar, so this then means that another has to control me, in short me has to control me, I have to control myself, self-control as God gives me ability through the Holy Spirit who dwells in me. I cannot control you, your wife cannot, your fianc√©/ spouse cannot, your boss cannot, the police are not able, even the army may control my behavior but not the me in me, God will not but only you are able to control you.

Control yourself De 30:19 “ I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live.”The choice is yours! It is apparent that when the things you used to do show up before you the lust within you will arise and claim that a short-cut is able to give you the gratification that the lust has raised in you. This is when you must decide to control yourself. Temptations from the old man will always come but know that you are no the only one going through this and it is not perculiar to you 1Pe 5:8 ¶ Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: 9 Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world. 1Pe 4:12 ¶ Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you.

You are not the only one who is:

• Seeing that money can be gotten easily through ungodly means.

• Seeing that women are getting more beautiful or that the man next door seems more loving, richer and has a bigger six pack than yours.

• Seeing that you can destroy your enemy’s life by a single rumor.

• Feeling the urge to talk about the juicy issues of the man of the man/woman of God, on issues I now know but others do not.

• Feeling it is a nasty temptation to look when I am availed the opportunity to see pornographic literature.

• Tempted to go on living in illicit sex, homosexuality, lesbianism, drug abuse and to resist the urge to smoke when you feel withdrawal symptoms.

• Feeling like exploding and telling off someone who has wronged you.
When you decide that the urge is too much and you cannot resist then you sin, you have missed the mark, you have failed. The difference between one who passes and one who fails, one that says “what did you expect me to do in those circumstances?” is self-control. Self control is deciding to follow your set principles, to respect your future than to choose instant gratification, it is saying to self “I will not though I can ,it is saying, “I have the ability to do it and to cover up without anyone knowing but I will say no to myself.” It is resisting yourself, fighting against yourself, deciding to kill self, to crucify self that Christ may live within you. Ga 2:20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

Control yourself you are not the only one being tempted and what you are going through is no perculiar to you. Everyone is going through this, so control yourself. Not every woman is your wife, not every man is your hubby, its not every party you have to attend, not every church that comes to town is your church, not every man you meet should you sleep with, not every lady that asks you to sleep with should you give your body, in short not every temptation that crosses your path should you yield to, control yourself, you are not an animal you are a human being you have a conscience and God expects you to control yourself. Hapana satani apa(there is no devil here), hapana mweya yemadzinza apa(There is no family curses), hauna munyama, you are not cursed asi hauzvibate chete(But you don`t control yoursel)! Zvibate, control yourself! AIDS is wrecking havoc because of unbridled sexual lusts, road accidents are all over because of drivers who cannot control themselves to drink at home, people are being mugged by people who cannot control their lust for even a few rands, corruption has brought Zimbabwe to its knees because someone could not control their love for money, families are breaking down because of men and women who lack self control.

How do I control myself? It is good for you to always remember that self control is based on your own discretion. Here are some things you may do to control the self:
• Yield to the presence and ministry of the Holy Ghost since genuine self-control is a fruit of the Holy Spirit (Gal 5:) which means you must first receive the Holy Spirit. Be willing to obey when the Spirit tugs your conscience, because He will. Ps 32:8 I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. 9 Be ye not as the horse, or as the mule, which have no understanding: whose mouth must be held in with bit and bridle, lest they come near unto thee. Stay in the word which transforms you and keeps you from sin. Ps 119:9 ¶ BETH. Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. Ps 119:11 ¶ Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.
•Make sure you set certain boundaries for yourself like “I will never do shady deals” or I will never have extra-marital relationships” and make sure these are made clear to yourself. According to Apostle Asa Gurupira, not everything that comes in your mind must be said or done.

• Decide that you will live to see your boundaries never crossed.

• Do away with all friends that do not want to follow your new faith 1Co 15:33 “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”

• Keep yourself away from tempting situations and hold on to the fellowship of the saints. Ps 1:1 ¶ Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.

• Ask others to help you e.g from your spouse, family or friend. Ec 4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone.12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

• When you fail do not give up but seek the help of a leader or pastor and be willing to repent. Never, never, never hide your sin. 1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Jas 5:16 Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Conclusion Our way forward is for us to know that no one from America or England or from Pluto or Mars to control us. It is only you that can control you! Your destiny, your eventual success or demise is based on your ability or failure to control yourself.

Self Control!